If your relationship is so bad why dont you just leave themIf you were in such an abusive relationship why did you stay with them for so longIf you knew you were in a relationship with such a toxic person why didnt you ask people for helpampampnbspIf youve ever been asked these questions aside from being ignorant and hurtful youll know its beyond frustrating. The answer to the above questions whilst its complex and often confusing can be given with two words trauma bonded.ampampnbspIf you find youre in a relationship that you know is so toxic that its crushing your very being but you cant bring yourself to leave you may be in the clutches of a tight trauma bond. If youre constantly feeling on edge forever working to appease your spouse to little avail and like youre constantly being chipped away at with their abusive behavior then I can understand how emotionally shattering it feels to live this way.